Where invisible lines are drawn...

So I was reading one of my usual blogs today (beyond black and white), and it had a guest post/question/discussion starter about whether there are more good black men or more good white men. Which was shocking to me that someone thought they knew enough of many races to be able to say if there was or not! LOL...So it was a bit offensive but I took it as an opinion and stopped myself from posting a response ;)...I married inter-racially and am soooo happy, I cant say there aren't any good white men, or that black men or brown men are better, as my husband was just a perfect match for me and as he likes to tell me often, I am also his perfect match.  We have both lived long enough to have had the option to marry in our race, but neither one of us is about color.  We are about character.  we chose a mate based on that and common goals and life plans and character - on the sensible side, and on love at first sight and mutual attraction - on the romantic side.  and that's it.  We both have family that doesn't think you should marry interracially  but we knew what was right for us, and we are happy. It may not be right for everyone but that is what free will and thoughful prayer is for.   I had prayed for my husband (not knowing who he was of course :)) for many years, and we both believe God led my husband to Canada just for me, amazing to think hey?  Nothing is too big or small for God.

My husband had a bad day yesterday and had some ignorant jerk yelling racial slurs and swearing at him, it is a disgusting thing that no one I know would put up with if it was them...I've had it happen to me and it don't feel good!  Why are people so rude and ignorant in this day and age! Our countries are diverse enough the world over to be over this dumb issue already, its some weird us and them thing that i do not understand.  I have had people be rude when we are out and about together, or people shake their heads when I am shopping with my beautiful baby girl and ask if she knows her dad. and I think of course, why do you assume that a interracial baby is father-less?!  or they think she is adopted LOL!  Nice that adoption is more mainstream I am definitely PRO adoption, but seriously people.  So I don't take most of it to heart, as i knew what i signed up for and anything that is worth doing is rarely easy, but I get frustrated by people's ignorance and outright stupidity at times, what makes someone think there are better cause of their skin tone, or for that matter, WHY ON EARTH would they think we are different????!  We are created by the same God, all bleed red, all need food and water, and we all know love and hate.  We all come from the same 2 people and if it hadn't been for the Tower of Babel we would still speak all the same language!  So I think no people are better no people are less, stop judging ignorantly by the color of my skin, or anybody elses for that matter, and wake up.  We are all on this world for the same things, to live and love, believe and meet our maker.  to live well and with character, and show God's love to all people, which is why it makes me furious when Christians start in against interracial relationships because they should know better.  Most of the new testament is about taking the gospel to ALL peoples and nations.  I can't wrap my head around the invisible lines that are drawn between races and diverse peoples....why do we feel safer in us and them situations?  Why is skin color such a big factor for relationships? or friendships?  Why cant people, see the person not the skin? I could get into color-ism here but I will save that for another day :)  Why do people feel safe with a perceived sameness?  I have been in a few situations where i was the only one of my race and didn't even notice till some one pointed it out, and asked if i felt alone? I asked why there are lots of people here!?  People are all people with the same needs and wants the world over.  So that is my thoughts, on something that is bugging me today, and I have to speak out about as it is close to my heart :)

Indifference....or Not?

Okay so the last couple of days I have seen countless "sponsor a child for Christmas" commercials, and been thinking how can i feed my child and sponsor one more?  And seen on a few of the blogs I read some good post raising awareness for organizations who do help kids, in Africa and many other countries.  But I cant get past the so I sponsor that child until he/she is old enough they no longer qualify and then what?  what do they do?  I know they probably got to go to school at least some, but what about their brothers and sisters?  What about their parents who if they have them give up their food everyday so their kids can grow?  And I came up with after a emotional discussion with my own dear mother, about how we just cant help them all....That we can help their mothers, and in essence help the kids more.  they get parents and food and housing and hopefully school.  We feel like the parents are often to blame, but it not really like that, especially their mothers, (I am warning you I am very passionate about this subject so you are warned in advance), If their Mom's had job options or a place in the society there would be more healthy kids and families.  the problems almost always come from women being no more then dogs or slaves and at least they are thought of as a burden to handled.  How would you like to pray your whole life to be able to get married to a man you dont know just so you are allowed to live? If you were born a woman in India you would have to.  They are allowed to "abort"(kill) adult daughters that they cant afford to find husbands for or other various reasons, if they cant marry her off and cant support you they could kill you LEGALLY! Think about that.  You could help by sending girls to school so they at least get job options to support themselves. you could help with their job training, Or literacy. Gospel for Asia(100% goes to where you send it) and the Catholic church, and our government (plan.ca) and other organizations have ways for us to help with these basic needs.  There are many options now days for ttis type of help in Africa and other parts of Asia as well.  There are so many countries in this world where women are second class if they are lucky and the children suffer for it too....if she looses her husband a Mother is left with little option to feed her kids, keep her dignity, with no standing as a person.  she has to scrounge for food or make a very hard choice....and often times pay with her life leaving her kids all alone.  We really can help.  If we help the mothers (parents) feed their families the kids get everything they need, Mom and Dad and food and shelter.  helping with job training or village needs, or literacy, or schools gives people more options then just feeding them.  they can be proud of their accomplishments as they work up and out of the poverty, or despair that war and bad government can produce.  Women are a force to reckoned with in this world and if they are given the chance, we can change it, one step, one child, one movement at a time.  Remember it wasn't that long ago in Canada that Women (we) were not allowed to vote, own land, have custody of our children if husbands divorced us or died, and we certainly couldn't have respectable work, besides housekeeping or nanny positions.  it wasn't long ago at all, that our brave great grandmothers stood up and said WE ARE PEOPLE! WE HAVE RIGHTS.  lets help another woman or two have the courage to make her own future brighter.

Merry Christmas :)

Tragically Ingnored

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For some reason there are alot of crimes against humanity, mostly women and girls around the world that even though some people know nothing happens to stop it.  I hope by increasing awareness we can help stop hate crimes and injustice to women and girls worldwide.  I have always wondered why they say men are the strong ones?  They are usually the dominant ones, but we are the strong ones,  women the world over usually have to endure more pain in their lives then men do, and in many countries are treated as and have no more value then animals! In India women are thought of as the lowest of castes and can be aborted by their families until they are into there 20's and if they cant marry them, they are allowed to kill them and call it abortion.  We need to do something to help our sisters.  Remember we are not exempt, we just are safe right now because brave women stood up and said "WE ARE FIRST CLASS CITIZENS TOO! We deserve to be what we want to be, we deserve respect, we deserve love, we deserve to have choices that we choose!"  and they kept standing up and fighting for it until it passed.  that is why we can t work and go to school past grade 9 and collage and choose our husbands, and be respected by them, why we can say how many kids and when we want them.  why we can have good jobs and sit in the same place in a church.  because some brave women fought for us.....lets be the brave women who fight for someone else to have the right and stregnth to fight for her own daughters...even though it may be too late for her,  there are many daughters who can benefit.  But we have to say something, do something, and NOT turn the other way, just because we are comfortable now.  All women deserve good safe happy lives.  Just imagine it was your daughter......What would you do??