Woman...Lovely By Design.

I have been reading really good blogs about femininity and am all in that right now cause i am VERY VERY opinionated about it...more in the you are a woman and different from men, but worth as much and that we need to enjoy and embrace and be girly and adornment is good and fine and fun...and we also need to spend as much time on character or more then we do in the mirror...it's more about balance. :)

I am very passionate about Women's Issues, and do alot of reading and reaserch about it, I read my Bible regularly and pay close attention to what God has to say about women in all aspects of life, and that is why I am committed to being a stay-at-home mom and a Home-maker.  It is a humble and very worthy calling I have known was mine my whole entire life from age 3. Yet how do you say in this world that your calling is to be a mother and home-maker and contributer in a support-group, and teacher and preacher and cook and house-girl to a large but lovely family ( we have one little one so far but my husband and I are in agreement that we will have and car efor as many as God blesses us with).  And what a blessing to find and better yet marry a man who values and holds in high regard, stay-at-home mothers and family over all the rest of the things of the world.  It is a joy to have a husband that notices and is thankful for the endless jobs we do again and again every day every week that make our houses homes.  I am blessed that is for sure....I am very thankful my Mother and Auntie (god-mother) told me when i was not yet a teen to pray for my future husband.  It was worth every single second...God hears every little tiny prayer that I know for sure, and He saves them up for the perfect time and gives abundantly!

  Modesty is something Mother talked alot to us about as we were becoming women, and often, she shopped along side us and guided us in the way we should go and helped us understand why...I have never wore a mini anything thanks to her...and am glad i headed her advice and teaching for the most part.  I always got treated like a lady (know that there are jerks and fools everywhere and i am not counting their idiocy in this) and with respect if i wanted...Women tell others how to treat us by our actions and dress.  If you don't look to men for approval you will be treated better by them, on top of making better life choices.   

I dont believe you need to wear long sleeves, that you cant show your arms, or that you cant wear shorts, and knee length skirts, but really anything that you cant wear a bra under or you see the straps, we all know that is not modest, and you can wear nice tops but dont show half your bust off, and you dont need saran wrap to get a mans attention, we often forget that a modestly, yet womanly dressed woman will most definitely catch their eye, and in a good forever type of way as opposed to a single night type of way and that really ishow every girl dreams of being desired and treated.  Treated with value and worth and held up in a forever loved, and treated like a princess way.  We dont get that dressing like a tart.  I now its blunt but you know its true. 
I like fashionable clothes and think it is fine to be stylish and that adornment is just fine and fun and wonderful part of being created woman, God speaks alot about how beautiful women are adorned....but it needs to be the accompaniment to a kind heart and gentle spirit, faith, and character.   The "good girls" of the bible wore jewels and nice clothes and pierced their noses so you need to pray and consider what your lines will be and the effect they will have on you as a woman, on those around you and your daughters and sons....and to all those people who say that we have to protect men from lust....that is theirs to deal with not yours, but we don't need to advertise if we aren't selling anything.

We all know when we get dressed the reaction our outfit will receive...what will you choose today?  A prince or a vagrant.   You have to stand a tell God when you get there so you have to choose for your self.  So that is my rant for the day and some of my thoughts on it, I would love to hear yours, I love a good disscussion!

Indifference....or Not?

Okay so the last couple of days I have seen countless "sponsor a child for Christmas" commercials, and been thinking how can i feed my child and sponsor one more?  And seen on a few of the blogs I read some good post raising awareness for organizations who do help kids, in Africa and many other countries.  But I cant get past the so I sponsor that child until he/she is old enough they no longer qualify and then what?  what do they do?  I know they probably got to go to school at least some, but what about their brothers and sisters?  What about their parents who if they have them give up their food everyday so their kids can grow?  And I came up with after a emotional discussion with my own dear mother, about how we just cant help them all....That we can help their mothers, and in essence help the kids more.  they get parents and food and housing and hopefully school.  We feel like the parents are often to blame, but it not really like that, especially their mothers, (I am warning you I am very passionate about this subject so you are warned in advance), If their Mom's had job options or a place in the society there would be more healthy kids and families.  the problems almost always come from women being no more then dogs or slaves and at least they are thought of as a burden to handled.  How would you like to pray your whole life to be able to get married to a man you dont know just so you are allowed to live? If you were born a woman in India you would have to.  They are allowed to "abort"(kill) adult daughters that they cant afford to find husbands for or other various reasons, if they cant marry her off and cant support you they could kill you LEGALLY! Think about that.  You could help by sending girls to school so they at least get job options to support themselves. you could help with their job training, Or literacy. Gospel for Asia(100% goes to where you send it) and the Catholic church, and our government (plan.ca) and other organizations have ways for us to help with these basic needs.  There are many options now days for ttis type of help in Africa and other parts of Asia as well.  There are so many countries in this world where women are second class if they are lucky and the children suffer for it too....if she looses her husband a Mother is left with little option to feed her kids, keep her dignity, with no standing as a person.  she has to scrounge for food or make a very hard choice....and often times pay with her life leaving her kids all alone.  We really can help.  If we help the mothers (parents) feed their families the kids get everything they need, Mom and Dad and food and shelter.  helping with job training or village needs, or literacy, or schools gives people more options then just feeding them.  they can be proud of their accomplishments as they work up and out of the poverty, or despair that war and bad government can produce.  Women are a force to reckoned with in this world and if they are given the chance, we can change it, one step, one child, one movement at a time.  Remember it wasn't that long ago in Canada that Women (we) were not allowed to vote, own land, have custody of our children if husbands divorced us or died, and we certainly couldn't have respectable work, besides housekeeping or nanny positions.  it wasn't long ago at all, that our brave great grandmothers stood up and said WE ARE PEOPLE! WE HAVE RIGHTS.  lets help another woman or two have the courage to make her own future brighter.

Merry Christmas :)

Strength

I have been thinking alot lately about Strength and what it is exactlly.  Is it about never falling down?  Or being able to get up again after you have?  I believe it is the later,  which is really harder after all, to pick your self out of the dust and try again, after everyone has seen you fall.  To carry on and build again, and work through all the trials again and then when you are standing on the top, not to rub it in anyone elses face. I think that is strength.  To help and love and learn and get up again and again until you top the hill.....and run down the other side knowing there is just another one behind it, and on and on and on.

So remember to get up, the sun comes out in the morning, or the next one.....but it always gets better, if you work for it and have faith.