Saturday, September 18, 2010

They say white girls cant dance......

Ok so I'm going to talk about dancing and how much it has to do with a womans confidence.
In a funny way the act of dancing builds a womans confidance like almost nothing else can.....i am not sure if sometimes a mans attention will hover around the same level some where....but being asked to dance by a man you like tops it all!
SO "they" say white girls cant dance. Ha! i say yeah may not come quite as naturally to us to find a rythym but once we do you better look out! lol.  I was told recently by a relative (obviously on my hubbys side), that was watching a vidoe someone had taken at a party dance (i was the only white girl in the room adn 99% of the time no matter where i am in the world I never seem to notice when I'm a minority, I see people as people, and feel comfortable with myself so it never matters to me) and they started talking about how beautifully the indian girls were dancing, and makig fun of every other race there (all where represented) and ESPECIALLY  the white girls "look at them what are they trying to do?" "they have no idea do they!" "ha look they finally gave up and went to sit down what is wrong with them? dont they kno they will never be as good?"  I listened to this talk about 1/2hr....then when auntie leaned over and said directly to me "a white girl can never beat and indian girl EVER at dancing." I jsut smiled and waited.  WHen the music changed to reggea, reggeton, and pop.....guess who bounced and looked around with no clue.....those indiian girls...and the rest of the girls at the party kept dancing beautifully.  Then the tune changes...."what kinda a music is this how the heck are you supposed to dance to it? what are they doing??!"  I said "do you see that white girl?" they answered "ya"...i said "thats what you do. thats how you dance. she is amazingly good. watch her and learn, she knos what shes doing."  They ALL turned around to see me "how the heck do you kno?" I replied, "cause I can do that, been doing it long time. ive gone to dances thats how you do it." They looked me up and down "You can do that?" I said "yes." They went "oh"....then i said " dont you kno that we may not be born knowing how to dance like the stars...but we learn....boy can we learn, we are not affraid to try, not affiraid to be laughed at while learning something new, and we will struggle and try and make fools of ourselves.  Then when we kno, when we've leaned. Look out, cause we kick butt everytime.  The worlds top belly dancers  are 2/3 white girls. And Your own hindi movies are now having ALL white girls except for the heroines as dancers......dont worry white girls can dance....and in a couple more parties tose girls are gonna surprise you :)"
I have had black white asian indian people all say i dance well....i was not born dancing well.  I had to make mistakes get laughed at loose the rythym.....till i could do it nicely.  I had to ignor them when people said aww you cant dance!...i had to let thier critism make my stubborn streak come i would practice.  So i guess this very long winded message to you, is Please Don't let others insecurities stop you from trying....just enjoy, live your life. and instead of critiszing anyone dancing - however they do - smile and think "good for them, they have guts, they are having fun, they look great cause they are happy"....And go and join in on the dance floor! Cause we only get one chance, at life....dont waste it, darling, just sitting in your seat. Get up get out there and dance! :)

Friday, September 17, 2010

Everything's in the kitchen sink

I was doing the dishes and of course, as usual, my mind started to wander away, and start working out my plan of action for dear husbands parents arrival tomorrow night.  And of course i started with getting up an dressed then moved onto which errands are most important....then i stopped.  Because I was making my scheduale and realized I was planning on getting up at 6am on a Saturday, so i would be able to get showred and dressed, and even - oh my - have time to put on some makeup too, because I was feeling bad about having your farther watch you while i finished getting ready.  I really do feel bad having someone else watch the baby while i get dressed or anything, eat even.   then i remembered the Proverbs kno the one that we can never seem to measure up to but plagues us anyways, :). and how she would get up befoe anyone else and shower and start breakast.....then i started wondering if she got up so early because she had a baby and wanted to have time to get dressed and maybe put on some kajahl (khol eyeliner) and earings, maybe she got up so early so she could feel clean and pretty, then handle her day...before the baby wakes up crying and wants to eat....before her husband wakes up and wants to cuddle. before the kids all came and jump in the bed.  Maybe just maybe that was the only way she got her hair brushed in the moring and maybe she was a pretty ordidary lady, that just did the best she could to make her house run smoothly.  Maybe she isnt so much better, just very dsaplined....
anyhow i think i finally understand why she did half of what she did,  and think it was because she had kids.  The rest I will most likely have to grow in age and wisdom to figure out....But, here's to trying!

I hope I'm not the only one who ponders lifes why's and how's, and philosiphies while standing at the sink, in the midst of diapers, and plates, and floor that needs to be swept for the 2nd time today, I have decided it is just fine to take a bit of time to enjoy being a add a bit of sparkle to our day so we can turn around and shake some on our family and others like the good Lord asks us to. :)  Have fun with the dishes!

Well, Hello land of bloggers!

I guess i should start this off with something light and sweet :), please excuse my spelling i do my best to check it but honestly spelling is NOT my strong, cooking, problemsolving, good at those...but not spelling lol.

So here goes.....

I have been noticing a serious trend towards glossy beauty in our everyday lives...maybe it is cause we have been bombarded with magazine pictures everywhere we go, or Tv and all the makeover shows and the actresses constantly getting more plastic looking and thinner, Oh My Lord, so much thinner.  Perhaps we are thinking it is normal now....but i really dont htink it is healthy at all....I have gotten caught up in it, I have to fight it everyday.  I love makeup and hairstyling, and jewlery and sparkly things, and fashion (mostly), and shoes OH MY do I love shoes, almost as much as eyeliner i think :).  But I think everything should have a balance...too much time infront of the mirror is not good for our hearts as women becasue it just makes the feeling of inadiquicy worsen, i think we need to develop a feeling that we are great just like that! no makeup, no designers. just fresh in the morning, with nothing on, yes i mean absolutly nothing naked and no makeup, we should be able to look in the mirror (PLEASE  dont go out like that).  Darling Daughter I hope you see your beauty before you put on whatever wonderful thing you chose to accetuate your curves (when you get them) and before you enhance your lovley face with the makeup you will choose.  I hope you will be happy with your frame, and hieght, and skin, and tone, and hair and everything else that women pick apart when they look in the mirror...
Very few of us are perfect, and that is good enough, pretty enough, sweet enough, loved enough.  We will still bring delight to others with our smiles and encouraging words.  We will still enjoy all that God has given ad try all we would like to try, and actually you will probibly try more things and enjoy more things the less you worry about your appearance.  I have friends who wont go dacning if they are 5lbs more then they want to be.  That is too sad because while they are at home feeling bad at home...I was out dancing, enjoying rythym, sound, and movment...and loosing some wieght as I dance, non-stop for 3-4hrs.  I dont kno how you would let someone elses opinion - no scratch that! what you think someone thinks of you stop you from doing anything! Especially dancing! So Please, when ever you want to dance (even in the grocery store and a good song is on) do it. Dance. Enjoy. Feel freedom.  Dress how you like (but modestly (no I dont mean prudy) please), do what you love, and PLEASE do not let the mirror rule you life, girl!
Ps : and all the people watching you looking at you like you are NUTS, are really thinking....."I wish I had the guts".

And speaking of dancing.....well I'll continue that tomorrow. :)